It often starts with
"I deserve a drink after a long day"
"Weed helps me relax, helps me sleep"
"I'm just going to try it, everyone is doing it"
After repeated use
You may notice that you can't relax without alcohol
You need weed to steady your nerves
You think about using more often, it takes up more of your mental space
When you stop using, your mood shifts and you feel irritable
Your friends and family may complain about your use, or encourage you to stop or slow down
Your use has negatively impacted your relationships, work or school performance